This what the search engine assists me
when I try to define the word “expectation” ; a belief that something will
happen or is likely to happen. For me, whose belief has broken down long time ago,
this unlikely be in my life dictionary. Why? To whom should I believe beside
myself? … That’s how I reply directly when asked.
A friend told me that lowering my
expectations might reduce my motivation or life spirit. Oh no! my friend must
have miss-interpret my understanding about expectation. I don’t have any
expectations towards other for I have trouble with trust and disappointment.
Since then, I do not expect others to do what I want him/her do but I expect
myself to do so. So if, he/she does the thing that meet my self-expectation
then I consider it as bonus.
My husband always tells me that I
forget his presence for I almost never expect him to do anything for me. That
night, I was turning off the light before we went to bed in which the switch
button was exactly near him than my side. But still I walked myself to his side
as to turned that off but asking him or expecting him to do so. That’s what I
called I did not expect towards others to do as what I want them to do. Then
another night, my husband directly turned off the light before I walked myself
to his side about to switch the lights of. THAT was I called BONUS!
When you are expecting someone to do something
as you expecting him/her to do so, you have just put burden on your shoulder in
probability of disappointment that he/she might not do it or do the reverse. So
why don’t you start to motivate your self-expectation towards yourself to do
what you want to do and be grateful when people around support you.
